What a surprise right? While I expected that my words would be taken out of context, I am utterly surprised that conversations that did not occur would be cited and that my TEARS would be taken out of context. The rest of this nasty little piece aside, Bryan Kemper for Life News writes that, ” two of the girls admitted to having problems seeing their nieces and nephews who would be the same age as their children.”
FALSE! As far as I know, I am the only woman on the panel who even has a nephew, and no nieces were ever mentioned. Not once. I also never said anything about Carter’s age being difficult, but merely that there is a sentimental aspect about my relationship with him now. And to clarify, this relationship is good. I love Carter and love spending time with him (although it has become a bit obnoxious now that he demands that I take him outside very single time he sees me). I love being an aunt.
Mr. Kemper also writes that “one girl who broke down on camera talking about her decision to have an abortion.” I going to assume that “that one girl” is me (damn it, why am I so sentimental? I knew I should have held back those tears better).
I want to clarify and state that I absolutely do not consider my abortion experience to have been sad, negative or in anyway deserving of tears. I was a happy and relieved little goofball after it, truth be told. Just ask my boyfriend. What I was crying about was how difficult it was to come home to my sister and nephew and not feel like I could tell her the truth. She’s my SISTER after all. If there’s anyone I should have been comfortable telling, it should have been her.
I wanted so badly to walk through the door and explain to her how sorry I was that I had been so judgmental while she was dealing with her unplanned pregnancy. That I now knew how hard it is to make decisions like that, and how I totally respect her choice to become a single, teenage mother. I wanted to beg her to forgive me for being so distant directly after having Carter. I wanted to explain that I had intended to be more supportive, but that I was counting down the days until I could breathe again.
I felt unable to do any of that because I wanted to keep my family safe from the confusion and stigma that accompany abortion. That’s why I cried. I love my family. They’re amazing and I feel horrible that I felt that I had to keep something so important to me a secret from them for so long.
For me, the silence is what hurt. The strain that it put on my relationships with the most important people in my life, that’s what I regret.
I suppose that I shouldn’t be surprised that an organization that is only concerned with perpetuating an anti-choice agenda would out-right LIE about the facts of the show. I shouldn’t be concerned either, but I am. These lies are what make abortion such a taboo subject. They’re what scares girls and women out of considering all their options, or from picking one that they know is right for them. These lies are what have, for so long, kept me silent. Well, not anymore.
Below is a link the the article, as well as the page through which Life News can be contacted. As I did, I hope you all will write a message to them, letting them know that their account of “No Easy Decision” doesn’t add up to what you saw, and that you would like them to retract the article and print one with a bit more journalistic integrity.
*Also, Markai and James are not married and MTV didn’t look for advertisements for this segment. No organization funded it.